How to Cope with the Discovery of Their Affair by Kara Dealle

Genre: Nonfiction, Self-Help Format: eBook

Publication Date: 12/29/2015

Source: I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review

Summary

How to Cope with the Discovery of Their Affair, and Move Forward Towards Your Recovery by Kara Dealle discusses the questions that readers should ask themselves if they discover that their spouses are having an affair. Drawing from her own experiences, Dealle encourages readers to use logic to make a decision about which course of action to take, discusses the different categories of cheaters, provides insights about the healing process, and shares the steps that readers will need to take if they decide to stay in the marriage.

Review

While this book is no substitute for counselling and does not include a discussion about affairs in an emotionally, or physically abusive situation; it seems to cover many of the questions that one should answer after discovering that a spouse is having an affair. Dealle does a good job of remaining non-judgmental and empathetic when discussing these questions; however, she is honest about how difficult the process of saving the marriage after the affair is, and does not pull any punches when it comes to figuring out why the affair happened in the first place.

The book itself is not as lengthy as many self-help books on the market and the author provides readers with bullet-point summaries at the end of each chapter that help readers to focus on important points. The overall tone of the book seems to be that of a friend who has experienced something similar and is trying to be empathetic and practical.

Since the book is based on the author's personal experience, it is not comprehensive; for instance, readers who ultimately decide to leave their marriages will not benefit from some of the information that is given because the author's experience is with saving her marriage.

The language of the book also tends to lean more towards heterosexual marriage; as someone who is bisexual and agnostic, I chafed a bit at some of the "sanctity of marriage" language that is prevalent in the book. I would not recommend it to my bisexual and lesbian friends, or friends who are in any domestic partnership situation because the assumption of heterosexuality and it does not mention domestic partnerships, which are quite similar to marriage.

The psychology of the book seems sound; there was not anything that raised any flags for me. I think that when used in conjunction with professional counselling, this book could be a useful tool to help some readers through the process.

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